Workplace Bully

Why do women undergo more bullying in the workplace than men? Is it because of intimidation, self esteem issues? Or does it have something to do with our need to let others know how much authority in position we have? And what could happen if anyone does a little bit better at what we do and DARES to get in the way?

While doing my research, I found more articles about women who would rather have a male boss than a female? Why is this so? More articles on catty women who pick on other's in the workplace? Why is this so? And more women who would rather step on other's to get to the top. Insead of extending a ladder for their co-worker to climb onboard. They take the latter WITH THEM WHEN THEY GO UP. Why is this so? This just ought not be!

Ladies, before I give my input let's hear what YOU have to say. Because I'm certain there are many who face these or similiar issues while at work. And because they don't want to lose their cool (and their jobs too) they just let it go. All while tension and built up anger is on the rise. And their spirit's crushed from everything they hold inside. Ultimately, causing bitterness, hatred, and sometimes even their dreams to be silent, roll over, become forgotten, and ultimately die. Again, I ask the question,"Why does this occur, and THIS OUGHT NOT BE SO".

Your input here is welcome and its needed too. Tell us, during times like these, what are some of the things that YOU might [or would] do. Empowerment for us, from us, and meant for YOU, you, you, and YOU #We want to hear what YOU have to say

Waiting to Exhale

Who in your life are you holding something against? Would it be easier to continue in bitterness and not forgive? Or might you admit in the peace you would have if you do #Relax #Relate #And RELEASE

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Love Again...Life Goes On

Ladies, this is REAL TALK. Please try to look past what you see [in who he is or whomever else this video shows], and listen to the wisdom in what he has to say. There's nothing wrong with an independent and strong woman. So long as it doesn't leave her all alone. And loneliness is not an end to means within itself. Some men do want what you have to give. But we have to be willing to look past our hurt and bitterness over what the last man did or did not do. And believe that there is someone out there for each of you. God made him just for you. You do deserve to be loved. And God does not want you to be alone. With patience [and as you position yourself and wait on God], love will find for your heart a happy home.

~Be Empowered & LIVE~

(YouTube Video: Tyrese Gibson presents The Independent Woman)

https://youtu.be/Pk_T_9UZmdk

Spirit Husband

For those in wait of your husband to be. This may be a good reading for you. Although some points may not pertain to your life, others may be something to consider that you may not even realize is what's stopped you from breaking through to who God has for you #Spirit Husbands #How to break those ties

https://www.edendecoded.com/blog-2/item/spirit-husbands

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Pray

Ladies, we have to stop talking about it and begin to PRAY about it! The only person who can fix what we're going through is the,"Person", of the Holy Ghost. Facebook can't fix it. Gossip will only make it worst. And trying to figure it out on our own will only lead to more confusion in the end #Prayer works #Hand it over to the Lord in prayer #And I PROMISE He'll make it ALRIGHT

Become a HOUSE of PRAYER

An Originate of You

There is a fire shut up in your bones, and you need to believe God to release. There is a vision that God has put in your spirit, yet you must believe God to receive it. It won’t just happen; rather you must believe for it. Yet you must get the believing in, by digesting the Word of God daily. Write the vision and make it plain! Get a plan and work toward minor goals that will bring the bigger goal of completion to past.

I want you to get this in your spirit,

“You are a duplicator of the originator.”

What Jesus did you will duplicate, or do also. Because He lives in YOU and we can do ALL THINGS because of who HE is! Do not let doubt steal any more victories, your dreams, or your life from you anymore. Yet, put the Word of God at the door of your spirit, to keep doubt from having the ability to plant its wicked seeds. Faith meets the obstacles before you with the Word that you have sown in your spirit. You are an overcomer and NOTHING will stop your flow to:

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Release From Within

Women are natural born carriers. We were created with a womb. In the natural and in the spirit too. Now, I know we're doing the 40 Day soul fast, and originally were following that of Dr. Cindy Trimm. However, the Lord dealt with me in another way, and I have to be led by Him. So, going forward this soul fast will be positioned completely by the leading of the Holy Spirit and what HE wants presented to you. Not off the reading (or opinions thereof) of the book alone.

This said, lately He's revealed that there are so many women holding on to things that won't allow them to just move on. This is because we, as women, have to learn how (and be willing) to release. King David, although he was a man, poured out his heart with tears, and was completely honest with God.

We too can be honest with God even when we are filled with anger or despair about something someone did or a situation gone the wrong way. This is because God knows us thoroughly and wants the very best for who He created us to be. To This, I encourage you to let go of things that hold you bound. Bitterness, strife, worriation, unforgiveness, jealousy, envy, and anger too.

These emotions are not good to hold inside. And may result in rash outward acts or emotions that can inwardly turn into depression. And things such as envy could cause true friends to walk away from a really good bond of love and unity. Listen, because we trust in our all-powerful God, we don't have to become victims of circumstance or fall prey to the guilt of what weighs us down. Instead, we can be honest with God and ourselves. And in turn, He will help turn our attention from self to his mercy; love, forgiveness, and grace. Today is the day to release. So how about it? Will you let Him have what's on your mind today? It'll make you feel much better. And you'll begin to see. That all this time it was that which was stopping you! Now,

~Be Empowered & LIVE~

Busy Schedules Reality Check

1) What in my schedule is making me busy but not productive?

2) Are there certain habits that contribute to my staying too busy?

3) Are there big picture things that need to be addressed?

4) Do I have help in deciding my priorities?

5) Do I need help in managing my priorities?  

Practical Ways to Avoid Busyness vs. Productivity:

*Decide how you are going to do talking and listening with God repeatedly in each of these Connections.

1) Get a sustainable plan.
2) Do it.
3) Discover your walls.

"Watch Out Not To Be Too Busy"

“Driven people are usually abnormally busy. They are usually too busy for the pursuit of ordinary relationships in marriage, family, or friendship … not to speak of one with God.”

All these are great questions to begin with. Take time to discover better ways you can connect without becoming more busy and less productive.

Cleansing

FORTY DAY SOUL FAST

Day 3: Cleansing

Forty is the number of cleansing. In the days of Noah, God sent the rain to cleanse the earth from everything that was not right. To destroy that which came to intervene in God's purpose. In order to fulfil God's plan for our life we need to rid ourselves of everything in the way that hinders from complete fulfilment of our destiny. Anything in the way must be removed that keeps you from following the lead of the Holy Spirit.

God's blessings on our life, relationships, and businesses begin with cleansing. This clears the airway in order to hear God's voice more distinctly. Think about it. God called a fast to rid the soul of filth, garbage, and spiritual debris; Isaiah 58. He called this fast to loose the bonds of wickedness, to undo heavy burdens, to free the oppressed, and that every yoke might be broken from off of our life.

What are the things that cause you to stagnate or live outside of God's plans for you? Remember, whatever there is stagnation there is death; a lack of movement or life. In a person, place, or thing. The Word suggests that an older ox was attached to a younger ox. And the older ox determined the youngers direction. Our negative thoughts can act like that yoke. Thus, making one believe that who you once were, where you have come from, or what people have said about you are the determining factors of your destiny.

Nothing could be further from the truth. And God wants to set us free from this kind of thinking during this 40 DAY SOUL FAST.

(Stand by for part 2)

Awareness 101

“I now have a clearer understanding regarding the significance of who I truly am and why I am here at this particular point in history”

Use the 40 Day Soul Fast Journal, and answer the following 24 questions. (If you have not purchased one yet, find a notebook and designate it specifically to this 40-Day adventure). If you don’t know the answers, simply write down the questions and come back to them later. It is our prayer that by the end of the next days, you will have a clearer understanding regarding the significance of who you truly are and why you are here at this particular point in history.

1. Who am I outside of the roles I play?

2. What are my long-term goals?

3. What should I be doing with my life right now?

4. What are my strengths?

5. What are my weaknesses?

6. What direction will my life go if I continue doing what I’m doing?

7. How can I be sure I am in the right place, doing the right?

8. What is my purpose?

9. Who should I be partnering with?

10. What resources are available for me to accomplish my goals?

11. Do I like the person I’ve become?

12. What do I really want to achieve in this lifetime?

13. What brings me my greatest joy?

14. What am I really passionate about?

15. What frustrates me most or makes me sad?

16. If I could do something other than what I am doing now, what would that be?

17. If I could live somewhere else, where would that be?

18. Do these things that I do and am involved with make me feel good and happy?

19. Are my relationships mutually beneficial and symbiotic?

20. Is there room for improvement in my relationships?

21. What have I accomplished so far with my life? Is it enough?

22. If I could do one thing different, what would it be?

23. After my death, will future generations know that I lived?

24. How do I want people to remember me?

Set aside time to pray and journal your thoughts until you find the answers. “God’s Spirit touches our spirits and confirms who we really are; Romans 8:15”.

Make it Happen

If you have a passion or vision about doing something in life NOW is the time to START MOVING! Forget those things which are behind and PRESS toward the mark of [YOUR] high call in God #No more excuses #NOW is the time #MAKE IT HAPPEN for you don't know what doors could open up for you. If you just sit back and dream. Get UP ☝. Get OUT👉. And do something👍.

SOUL FAST

Take a journey with WEL INC. on a Soul fast. As we discover the authentic you by becoming free of everything [past and present] that has kept us from embracing who we were originally created to be. We will be challenged to deal with the things that had us bound and reunite with our real me. For those who would join together you are recommended to read Dr. Cindy Trimm's book titled,"40 Day Soul Fast". So you can reunite with your authentic you and together we can disover life's purpose, live ON PURPOSE, and make that passion inside come alive! Today we begin our journeys to becoming a better you #Let the journey begin

Your Voice Matters

This is truth! YOUR VOICE MATTERS and YES God DOES care about what happened to you. Allow Him to deliver you from the pain and hold you in your shame. In this you will be comforted and in this will come healing of your soul. You're not a product of what they did, but your MORE THAN A CONQUEROR in Christ Jesus #Why #Because He DOES LOVE YOU #and because GOD SAID SO

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https://youtu.be/S7X50KQC6K8

Pained But Purposed to Win

She never expected to be a victim of abuse twice. At age 22, she married a man who wasn't a Christian. Within weeks of the wedding, he began to tell her she was worthless and stupid. In the midst of arguments, he would punch her with her own fists.

Feeling she had nowhere to turn, she stayed with him. Until one night when he pulled out his pistol. She watched in disbelief and panic as he toyed with the gun and eyed her.

Something snapped within her. "After he got out the gun," She then said, "I realized I'd done nothing that would have warranted him shooting me." She sought a divorce.

Eight years later, She married again. She felt certain this man would treat her well since he was a Christian. But just as before, within months this man began to verbally abuse her. After one fight, he said, "What are you going to do? Leave me? Everything you have is half mine now."

Mustering her courage, She confronted him. To her relief, he recommitted his life to Christ and joined a men's accountability group. But not long after that, the abuse escalated. He choked her, trapped her in rooms, isolated her from family and friends, and berated and demeaned her. She spiraled into depression.

"I constantly begged God to end my life," she admits.

Arise and Go! Without her husband's knowledge, she began to see a counselor, who told her that she was living in an abusive home. But it wasn't until a women's retreat that she finally saw clearly. "I realized that every year when I'd attend that women's retreat, I'd beg God to save my marriage. And every year I was at the same point of despair," she says. "God finally got through to me."

She prayed for direction and told God, "If you say go, I'll go." One day she heard God's words to Abraham as she read her morning devotional: "Arise and go hence." She called her attorney that morning. But still she carried shame and humiliation within. "I had two failed marriages, infant twins to care for, and I'd gained 90 pounds. I had difficulty just existing," she says.

One day, during a Sunday school class, the teacher asked everyone to partner up to discuss a passage about submission. She turned to the woman next to her and said, "I'm not sure I'm the right person to partner with."

"I was thinking the same thing," the woman said. "I'm getting a divorce," In response she said, "Me too. But mine's not a normal divorce. I have a restraining order against my Christian husband."

"So do I," She said. Soon after she began to hear about other women in her church with similar stories. A choir member whose husband sexually abused her. A woman who endured a 20-year marriage to an alcoholic. Another whose story of abuse mirrored Her own. The moral of all this?

Nothing you go through in life will be waisted. There is purpose to your pain. But sometimes it's found in the life of another. Your story does matter. It could be the saving grace for another just to make it through.

Declare Yourself a Winner

You were created for THIS moment RIGHT HERE! So when life knocks you down or you feel there's nowhere else to turn. Get back up and look in the mirror at SELF. Then repeat after me:

Say,"Self, I'm MORE THAN a conqueror! Self, I was not born to lose, but because Christ lives on the inside I can do anything BUT fail! Therefore self, I'm going to look 👀 you square in the face, and remind you that I have NO CHOICE BUT TO MAKE IT THROUGH"!

#Because you were created a winner #And when you're always trying you will do anything BUT fail😊

Spiritual Empowerment Coach
Gwen Stephens; WEL CEO

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Passion is an Act

Passion is defined as:

A strong feeling or emotion, an object of someone's love

When asked "What are you passionate about?" most people ask themselves, "What do I love?" Love is passion. When you are passionate about something, nothing can stop you from doing that thing, not money, not career, not family, not friends, nothing!

For believers who have surrendered their life to Christ, their passion lies in serving the most high. The bible refers to this "passion" as a "thirst and hunger for righteousness (Matthew 5:6)."

In the natural realm, food and water are necessary and without it we perish and are unable to sustain life. In that particular verse in Matthew, the ending states "for they will be filled." Imagine being stranded on an island with no food or water. In this analogy, your passion would be to find water and to food because you feel very strongly the need to survive. Everything that you do, and every move that you make would be to ensure that aforementioned passion is fed (literally in this case). Regardless of whether changes in the weather occur, or any other change, your passion will NOT be displaced.

In the spiritual aspect of thirsting and hungering for the righteousness of Christ, nothing and no changing circumstance will shake or remove your passion, and with that, your end result is being filled.

Now to stay with this scenario of you on an island, your passion is such based on your experience of having no food/water. Had you been placed on an island with food and water in great abundance, your island experience would be vastly different, and thus so would your passion. Passion is shaped by experience.

Matthew 22: 37-40 says "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, and soul." Consider what it means to be passionate, now consider how much impact your heart, mind, and soul have when they are all in accordance with one another for a greater purpose!

Think about some things that you are passionate about. Now ask yourself, is this passion pleasing to God? Sometimes on the life journey, we can pick up bad habits that create an unintended passion within us. This negative passion could transpire through habitual patterns with certain people/materials/drugs/groups/music/hobbies, etc that have caused us to be removed from God's presence.

Galatians 5:24 “And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.”

Being a child of the most high God causes us to "long and faint for the courts of the lord," not only that, but our "heart and flesh sing for joy to the living God" (Psalms 84:2)

Passion is an act.

No Compromise

Don't compromise what God has for you. Even if it hasn't come to past. Don't give up, but ask God what you need to do in order to see the manifestations come to be. Sometimes it's what we're NOT doing that makes the promise seem delayed. Write the vision and make it plain. Get yourself a plan and work toward it #For faith without works is dead #Work towards the goal of becoming a better you

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Just When

Just when you feel like you can't or it won't happen. Think about the people who will be affected if it does NOT, and find strenth to push that much more! For it's never completly about us, but whose lives we can make a difference in. That's what matters most #What you make happen for others #GOD will make happen for YOU

Power of Vision

Sometimes we wait for God to give us instructions or messages, whether directly or through prophecy. But, there are times when God chooses another method of communication.

Has God ever shown you something with your spiritual eyes while you were awake or in your sleep? Did it leave you saying,

“This doesn’t even make sense”, “I wonder what the purpose is”,

or

“I wonder what I am supposed to do”?

Did you know in your gut that God was trying to tell you something? Maybe God was very clear with what He wanted you to see and provided you with clear instructions, as He did with Noah. Maybe what He showed you was symbolic or metaphoric, as He did with Pharoah. Nevertheless, God can communicate with whomever and however He chooses.

This is what you call a vision. Sometimes we are so busy in life that we don’t seek to hear God’s voice, or maybe we haven’t arrived at the place where we know His voice. When God gives us a vision, it is important and necessary to yield to it. This is evident in Habakkuk 2:2-3. God responded to Habakkuk’s questions by giving him a vision. He also instructed Habakkuk to

“Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it"

Writing the vision down on tablets preserved the message. These tablets served as the official record.

These scriptures let us know that having a vision alone is not enough. We have to also be able to put that vision into action. What are your visions? Do they coincide with what God has shown you?

What is the vision for your spiritual life? Your personal life? Your family? Your career?

If you don’t have one, then that could be the reason why you are struggling in that area. I challenge you to think about your current state and situations. Look deeper into those areas in your life that you desire improvement and follow these steps:

(1) Write a vision for those areas.
(Habakkuk 2:2, “Write the vision…”)

(2) Develop an action plan that will help you accomplish that vision.

(James 2:26, “…faith without works in dead”.

(3) Seek God first. (Matthew 6:33, “…seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”).

(4) Trust in the Lord (Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Keep in mind that “Where there is no vision, the people perish…” (Proverbs 28:18).

Signed: Marquita Graves, Family Life Coach

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Transformation Challenge

Starting Now

Beauty in the Making

Find Balance

Someone asked the question, “How do I balance everything I have on my plate”? Emotionally, spiritually, and physically we must seek to find rest and balance in these areas of life. This said, we should always strive for stability. There comes seasons where we have to work really hard, and during those times we may neglect some areas of importance. Then during other times we should strive to regain our focus and find balance between down times and when we are challenged to keep our lives afloat. I have found that a calendar or to-do-list is useful during times of high demand. Sit down weekly and create yourself a scheduled list of things to do. Then, set a reminder on your phone calendar or whatever device you use of when these should be done. This will help you gain stability and keep balance with all the things you have to do.

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Overcoming Fear

Identifying our fears and admitting we have a problem is only the beginning to overcoming them. Most people have struggled, especially women, with fear at some point of their life. Some, frustrated by an underlying belief that "godly Christian women" aren't supposed to struggle with feelings of phobia, fears, and anxieties, because "we trust in the Lord" and that should be more than enough to handle any problem we have; from day to day.

The thought then becomes, "So I'm a failure. Now What"?

The first step to finding a solution is to realize that our minds have become mere victims of depression and defeat. This does not have to become our reality, and it's okay to acknowledge that there are times when we question our faith and struggle with this monster that some identify as, "fear" itself; False Evidence Appearing Real. From mind to emotions, the thought turns into what they may never appear (on the outside) to be. Suicide; not mental but mostly emotional. Then fear becomes, "comfortable" because it's familiar. This just should not be.

The realness of powerless victimization that leads to feelings of denial, withdrawal, control, shame, and low self-esteem. That ends in excessive eating, addictions, and outbursts in behavior; of which make our characters questionable. This facade has left so many women feeling naked, unprotected, and vulnerable to exposure of how they really feel. To some just a feeling, but does any one else see?

Facing our fears head-on can feel intensely risky; I admit. But it can also be a stepping-stone to humble faith, renewed confidence, appropriate power, courage, and trusting reverently in a sovereign, powerful, and loving God. 

1 John 4:18

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear

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Love Your Man to Life

When you ask a man how he feels, he may only be able to tell you what he thinks. Men are thinkers. Their feelings are hidden as the intellectual property of their soul. Feelings are filtered in their head and they are rarely able to get to them. It’s not that they don’t want to feel, but rather that feelings are hard to get to, because they are not “wired” that way. Men are challenged by this paradox because they are always running into situations that force them to the ocean floor of their emotions. When tears are hard to hold back and anger is crying for revenge and violence, men rush to rescue these feelings with logic; calculated thought that gives rise to stability and control. If anything is ever important for a man, it is always to control his emotions. Feeling is a dance they fear having because thinking is safer and more promising. Thinking keeps them from the explosive realities of their emotions. So, it’s not that they don’t feel, it’s just that they don’t feel like women feel. Which brings up an interesting dynamic. The thought that if men do not do it like women, then they are somehow doing it wrong.

Men don’t have to do things like women to connect with women. Men need to learn and accept that the way they are “wired” is OK. Somewhere along the line, men have learned that there was something wrong with them. The way they sorted through sexual development by exploring as many girls as possible; the way they perceived their realities and responded to their environments; the way they sought attention and popularity; the way they ran from their responsibility when life left them with no resolve; the way they cried, without tears because they really loved the things they lost. There is nothing wrong with manhood, but there is something wrong with life, and men have had to live in it and figure out how and where they fit.

Article Written by Leroy Scott

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Let it Go

Don't Lose Hope

There will be days when situations do not appear as we expect them to be. 

This does not mean we should lose hope. 

Instead find it all over; afresh and anew.

The hope of another will come 

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Time to Move

In case you have waited for your time to move on your hopes and dreams. This challenge is for you! WEL challenges you to put those dreams back on the table. Write your vision down. Find a local community or people with similar aspirations who have succeeded moving into their areas of interest. Link together with them and learn all you can. Find out how you can make your dreams come true, and then make it happen! 

From the WEL team. We encourage you to,

"Be empowered and LIVE"