Overcoming Fear

Identifying our fears and admitting we have a problem is only the beginning to overcoming them. Most people have struggled, especially women, with fear at some point of their life. Some, frustrated by an underlying belief that "godly Christian women" aren't supposed to struggle with feelings of phobia, fears, and anxieties, because "we trust in the Lord" and that should be more than enough to handle any problem we have; from day to day.

The thought then becomes, "So I'm a failure. Now What"?

The first step to finding a solution is to realize that our minds have become mere victims of depression and defeat. This does not have to become our reality, and it's okay to acknowledge that there are times when we question our faith and struggle with this monster that some identify as, "fear" itself; False Evidence Appearing Real. From mind to emotions, the thought turns into what they may never appear (on the outside) to be. Suicide; not mental but mostly emotional. Then fear becomes, "comfortable" because it's familiar. This just should not be.

The realness of powerless victimization that leads to feelings of denial, withdrawal, control, shame, and low self-esteem. That ends in excessive eating, addictions, and outbursts in behavior; of which make our characters questionable. This facade has left so many women feeling naked, unprotected, and vulnerable to exposure of how they really feel. To some just a feeling, but does any one else see?

Facing our fears head-on can feel intensely risky; I admit. But it can also be a stepping-stone to humble faith, renewed confidence, appropriate power, courage, and trusting reverently in a sovereign, powerful, and loving God. 

1 John 4:18

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear

~WEL Says Be Empowered & LIVE~

Love Your Man to Life

When you ask a man how he feels, he may only be able to tell you what he thinks. Men are thinkers. Their feelings are hidden as the intellectual property of their soul. Feelings are filtered in their head and they are rarely able to get to them. It’s not that they don’t want to feel, but rather that feelings are hard to get to, because they are not “wired” that way. Men are challenged by this paradox because they are always running into situations that force them to the ocean floor of their emotions. When tears are hard to hold back and anger is crying for revenge and violence, men rush to rescue these feelings with logic; calculated thought that gives rise to stability and control. If anything is ever important for a man, it is always to control his emotions. Feeling is a dance they fear having because thinking is safer and more promising. Thinking keeps them from the explosive realities of their emotions. So, it’s not that they don’t feel, it’s just that they don’t feel like women feel. Which brings up an interesting dynamic. The thought that if men do not do it like women, then they are somehow doing it wrong.

Men don’t have to do things like women to connect with women. Men need to learn and accept that the way they are “wired” is OK. Somewhere along the line, men have learned that there was something wrong with them. The way they sorted through sexual development by exploring as many girls as possible; the way they perceived their realities and responded to their environments; the way they sought attention and popularity; the way they ran from their responsibility when life left them with no resolve; the way they cried, without tears because they really loved the things they lost. There is nothing wrong with manhood, but there is something wrong with life, and men have had to live in it and figure out how and where they fit.

Article Written by Leroy Scott

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